Every year hundreds of thousands of people engage in the act of setting new year’s resolutions and at the end of that year every year hundreds of thousands of people fail to achieve them. Research tells us that roughly 35% of people who make new year’s resolutions later admit that they had unrealistic goals, 33% of people do not track their progress, 23% of people forgot about they goals they pledge to and 1 in 10 people felt they had made to many resolutions (Hutchinson, 2014). Another study by Wiseman (2007) has shown that 88% of people who set new year’s resolutions fail despite 52% being confident that they would succeed when they made the resolution.
Whether that is to quit smoking, get healthy, find love, help others, save money, join the gym or something else just setting the resolution does not make it happen. In today’s article Quest Psychology Services will not only show you how to set goals in a way that is key of having a successful life. But more importantly how to tailor that success to be personal to you. But first let us have a look at the history of new year’s resolutions.
The History of New Year’s Resolutions
New year’s resolutions are a common tradition that’s predominantly found in the Western Hemisphere and more infrequently in the Eastern Hemisphere. It holds its origins within various religious contexts. For example, Babylonians made promises to their gods at the beginning of each year that they would give back borrowed items and pay their debts. Whereas Romans began every year by making promises to the god Janus (January is named after the god Janus). Alternatively, in medieval times knights would take the “peacock vow” at the end of the Christmas season. They would make a vow to this noble bird to re-affirm their commitment to chivalry.
Making Resolutions Personalised
When people usually talk about success or are asked what they want out of life the response is usually stereotypical to our western and capitalistic culture. For example, its not uncommon for people to say that they would like a large house, lots of money, a perfect job, a fast car. Many things people describe are materialistic. Whilst it would be nice to have these it is not personal to that individual. This creates a further issue that if someone does achieve these that because they then are not living inherently inline with their values. These goals do not mean that people will always be happy. Therefore, we need to make our own new year’s resolutions and goals much more personal to us. The secret of which will be revealed later in this article.
Making Them Successful
Many readers will likely have heard of SMART goals. This stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time Sensitive. It is a good way of making a goal achievable. The key part of this method that we will be taking away today is the idea of time sensitivity. This goes hand in hand with core component of a new year’s resolution in that it is tied to being completed within a year.
A Guide of How to Make the Ultimate New Year’s Resolutions
To ensure that we are settings to goals to complete value-based living that is personal to us and that care time limited the following recipe applies. This does not mean that you must complete the goal within a year but be clear about the progress you will make towards it in the next 12 months.
First what we are going to do is reverse the usual aspect of saying what we want to achieve or what we believe is success. This is the common pitfall resulting in us reeling off items that are not personal and predominantly are socially constructed and learnt. To do this you need to take time and right down what you would see 6 biggest failures in your life being this could be now or in the future. Things you might not like about yourself or might not be or what you might not achieve. This can be painful so look after yourself and take your time with it. But it is a key step to finding out real and worthy goals for yourself.
Now you have your 6 biggest failures you need to write the exact opposite of those. This is because success is the opposite to failure and now it is the successes that are most personal to you living your best value-based life.
When you have your 6 measures of success, we then need to bring in the element of time. Working backwards we are looking to break down what you need to do within the year to achieve this. Then breaking down into smaller steps what you need to do each month in order to attain the yearly step. Finally break down into what you need to do every week in order meet this monthly step.
Failure: Being seen as stupid
Measure of Success 1: Being seen as intelligent
Every Year I need to:
- Become more educated – Gain a qualification
- Increase my knowledge
- Publish an article
Every month to attain the yearly step I need to:
- Go to university
- Read literature
- Write a chapter
Every week to make sure I attain the monthly step I need to:
- Attend my class
- Read a book or journal article
- Listen to a podcast
- Research for my chapter
Dr Gregory Warwick is a Chartered Counselling Psychologist and Director of Quest Psychology Services (www.questpsychologyservices.co.uk) that offers counselling and psychological help in Salford, Manchester